To talk through feelings with an impartial observer
To identify hidden strengths and realize your potential
To collaboratively sort out thoughts and formulate strategies
Goals of Therapy
SEE what is
EXPLORE healthier options to move on
TELL a better story of who you are
I believe every person is unique and therefore needs an individually tailored therapy approach.
My approach is interactive, empathic, respectful and objective. I hear each person's story.
Together we look at patterns and beliefs in the present and the past.
I am a systemic therapist and look at people in terms of their relationships.
I believe therapy is an opportunity to create a new narrative for your life or improve on your existing life narrative.
Each person wears a T-shirt with a slogan: “Victim” or “Winner“
Family is man's natural habitat.
You can only help by seeing him/her in the context of relationships, past and present, personal and professional.
Otherwise the therapy has a band-aid effect rather than enabling the effect of true transformation.
When possible, use a prevention model: intervene in issues before they become crises.
But if there is a crisis, it is often a unique opportunity to re-evaluate one’s choices and circumstances and choose a new direction.
Change can be scary.
We work with a respect for each person's beliefs, which are the attitudes and assumptions from the family of origin, culture or race, community or personal experience. It's called a legend or map of the family:
Should women work?
Must a son be like his father?
Is money to be spent or saved?
We look at life cycles that are occurring (and cause stress even if they are happy events).
Is there a marriage or divorce, a birth or a death?
The family is a system with boundaries, triad, and diads:
Who is close?
Who is in charge?
Is it hard or easy to go outside the family boundaries?
There are many tools including:
The genogram, which is a written family history over three generations.
PREP approach to improve dysfunctional communications.
Therapeutic letter writing.
Systemic therapy involves using these tools and asking the above questions in order help an individual learn more about himself or herself and make choices consistent with the highest level of psychological, emotional and mental well-being.